Saturday, November 27, 2010

coping with infertility


bagaimana ummi belajar utk terima hakikat bahawa ummi tidak mampu utk mengandung secara normal berbanding kebanyakan rakan ummi?

memang sukar.it doesnt take overnight as ppl may say.from the moment ummi heard the post-op result, it took roughly few weeks to actually digest the fact...but u see, being a lady is not helping as it didnt end there.without a doubt at least once in a while u'll have breakdown moments esp when u heard your friends get pregnant AGAIN or when you relatives/inlaws starting to ask those questions.phew

basically the following are what keep us move on;

finding support groups
ummi akan google forum/blog yg berkenaan dan belajar daripada pengalaman org lain. daripada sini juga ummi dapat kekuatan dan tips2.kalau boleh ummi cuba elakkan groups yang bawak negativity.i need all the +ve vibes so i try as much to filter my readings tho related.kang tak pasal2 breakdown bila baca blog tu.alhamdulillah so far MAJORITY of the ppl in groups are very +ve and friendly ppl coz they have loads of time and LOVE <3

watch giu&bill
ni kebetulan je.sebab mmg ummi folo cite ni dah lama dah.elok few months lepas ummi dpt berita sedih tu, rupa2nya giu&bill pun facing the same ordeal.so ummi ajak walid sekali tgk supaya faham what is ivf procedure all about.bila ummi masuk fb page g&b rupanya ramai yg mengalami nasib yg sama macam kami huuu.
dalam buku yg depa tulis pun ada cerita ttg mcmane mereka mhadapi infertility...


read facts not myths
kebanyakan orang mungkin akan skeptikal dgn ivf.dibolehkan ke dalam islam?sapa yg ivf ni kira loser kan?benda2 negatif ni ada dlm mindset mereka sebab mereka tidak didedahkan tentang ivf.ummi pun masa awal2 dulu rasa macam tu juga.rasa macam loser sebab kena buat bayi tabung uji.term dalam bahasa melayu pun lansung tak membantu kan?bunyi sangat kasihan baby kena buat kat dlm tabung uji sob2.jadi ummi kata dalam hati tak boleh jadi ni.jadi ummi byk buat pembacaan dan research.tak kurang jugak baca real life stories.it really helps you to be positive.and you will feel special

sokongan dari suami
ummi bersyukur sangat2 kerana dikurniakan suami yg sangat memahami.dalam kes kami, ummi yg bermasalah.walid nye side alhamdulillah perfect ;) tapi walid TAK PERNAH salahkan ummi.dalam walid sibuk bekerja, walid akan sentiasa make sure yg walid teman ummi utk jumpa doktor.walaupun ummi yg byk buat reserch baca itu ini, amik tau term itu ini, walid pun tak kurang berusaha utk memahami apa yg ummi cerita kat walid sampai kadang2 tu walid yg lg ingat term2 yg doktor bg dari ummi..hihi.wp kami berdua latarbelakang kejuruteraan, term2 medikal ni kami kena jugak belajar sebab its what we are facing and live with.thanks walid for always be there and your patience is my everything ;*

not make it public
selain walid dan parents ummi, ummi tak cerita tentang ini kepada semua.ummi cuba sedaya upaya utk simpan cerita ini melainkan ummi betul2 percaya yg org tu takkan kepochi.sbb benda infertility ni tak ramai yg faham.terutama mereka yg tak dgr the whole story.jadi, utk elak drp diri sendiri kemurungan, ummi cuba utk tidak bercerita kpd kawan2/keluarga.buat masa ini la kan.di masa depan ummi tak tau..blog ni pun ummi buat seanonymous yg mungkin hihi

banyakkan doa, syukur & sentiasa positif
kalau tgk doa kat sidebar ni, tu la doa2 ummi dan walid.hanya Allah yg maha mengetahui.kebergantungan hanya pada Dia.kurangkan meratap nasib kerana ia takkan membawa kita kemana-mana.start looking for solution and not crying over problems inshaallah.kalau nak ikutkan walid mesti EQUALLY sedih macam ummi jugak.jadi ummi kena kuat sebab we are each other's strength, inshaallah...

setakat ini saja...kalau ada lg nanti ummi sambung lagi hmm :)





1 comment:

  1. it is indeed a shocking reality not being able to conceive so "easily" like all our friends out there. ada yang sebaya pun dah 4 orang anak, and yet we're struggling to just have one. Still praying very very hard for my BFP.

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